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Wednesday Word

May 29, 2019

This Wednesday Word No. 112, from AdView and spotted on Pinterest, is pure facts. I’ve seen it in my own life recently with some strides made with my fitness. Toward the beginning of the year, I set out to take control of my health and made finding a personal trainer one of my 2019 goals. Since I’ve been working out with my trainer, I’ve lost 10 pounds and 2 percent body fat! I was surprised to hear those results, but it just goes to show that a little becomes a lot if you keep your head down and trust the process. I think the (not-so) secret to my success has been making changes to my regimen little by little. I started cutting back on eating fast food and upped my physical activity. Nothing groundbreaking! This could apply to any goal that you make for yourself.

Also, on the eve of World MS Day, I must reflect on my health journey. I’ve slowly been working on strengthening my left foot that became severely weakened after my flareup, which ultimately led to me being diagnosed with relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis. And slowly I’m beginning to be able to walk for longer periods unassisted by my AFO brace. I WILL be able to leave it off permanently one day soon! To think about where I was back then and where I am today is astounding. I went from having extreme fatigue where I would just collapse after getting home from work, for weeks on end, to waking up at 5:30 a.m. consistently to work out and feeling energized well into the night. All I can say is, “Thank you, God!” I’m writing this to remind you that it — whatever your “it” may be — may look too hard to attain, but taking it one step, hour, day at a time will mean big results if you keep at it. So, don’t give up just yet! You’re closer than you think.

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Wednesday Word

Wednesday Word

April 24, 2019
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Image courtesy of FTD by Design

This Wednesday Word No. 111, discovered on FTD by Design, is an on-time reminder to give your loved ones their flowers, like the roses pictured in this image, while they’re still here to enjoy them. I wish I had a few more snuggles and walks with my beautiful, loving 13-year-old fur baby, Berkeley Buster DeVoe. I had to say goodbye to him earlier this month on April 7. I keep thinking of all the good memories to get me through, and the more I reflect on his life, the more I see how much he has truly become a part of me. That little rapscallion came into my life during my last year of college and has basically been with me throughout my entire adult existence. He has helped me become the woman that I am today, so I know that without a doubt, Berkeley lives on through me. I find solace in the fact that even though there’s a Berkeley-sized hole in my heart, time will heal the wounds.

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Wednesday Word

January 30, 2019
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This Wednesday Word No. 110, courtesy of Quote Master and spoken by the late poet-activist-womanist Audre Lorde, is a reminder to take care of yourself. I dare to venture that it’s necessary for you to take care of yourself first. Truly, how can you pour into others when your well is dry? I have to keep that in mind when I feel like I’m exhausted with my daily work responsibilities, and work events and after-work events. Especially now with my condition, rest is vital to me to have a long, healthy and stress-free life. Another version of the quote has Lorde saying, “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” Because the notion of putting yourself first is contrary to what women are taught. Some of you may have even observed the women in your lives taking a back seat to everyone else. Where did it get them? Probably exhausted, frustrated, depleted, and hopefully, not to an early grave. So I implore you all to pause and take inventory of your life. Are you regularly practicing self-care? If the answer is “no,” I suggest you make plans to do so before the day is over. Need ideas? Dear Black Women has you covered! Take care, friends!

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Wednesday Word

April 25, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 106, spotted at Haute in Texas, is where my heart and head have been since my epic trip to South Africa. Our group was fortunate to go on a walking tour of the Langa township in Cape Town, where we had the opportunity to meet the locals, learn about their history, buy some of their wares and see how they live. Sugar, our tour guide, was from the township and gave us a real glimpse at life in this part of the world. She even gave us a run-down of the Xhosa language, marked by distinct clicking sounds, which made me appreciate its unique beauty all the more. We visited the Dalukhanyo Preschool, where the kids sang the South African national anthem and danced for us. I wanted read to them and play games and trade dance moves. Simply put, I didn’t want to leave. If anything, those few minutes we spent at the school made me realize that I could be doing more to support them. Our tour guide in Johannesburg, Sonja, also left an impression on our group. Her adoration for the country of South Africa was palpable. She didn’t sugarcoat the not-so-pretty parts but spoke truth with love. It’s crazy how much Sugar, the students and Sonja made me feel at home, thousands of miles from Long Beach, on a whole new continent, on the other side of the world.

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Wednesday Word

March 7, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 104, spotted at Hom Sweet Hom, was unapologetically spoken by Shonda Rhimes. For the uninitiated, Shonda Rhimes is the creator, head writer, executive producer and showrunner of “Grey’s Anatomy,” “Private Practice,” “Scandal” and “How to Get Away With Murder.” She basically runs Thursday nights on ABC and is a total game-changer. But that probably goes without saying. This quote taken from her book, “Year of Yes” (I listened to it as an audiobook in January, and it completely changed my perspective and led me to embark on my own “Year of Yes”), is her forever mood and is goals for me. To put it into context, Shonda writes: “I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart. I am talented. I take advantage of the opportunities that came my way and I work really, really hard. Don’t call me lucky. Call me a badass.” Remember those words when someone tries to dim your shine. We all should have the confidence to tout our greatness. Let’s call it like it is. We’ve earned everything we’ve accomplished, often working twice as hard to get half the credit of others. This Women’s History Month, I salute Shonda Rhimes for the example she has set for Black girls everywhere. Seeing her succeed lets us know that our words matter and that embracing our imaginations and creativity can lead to amazing things.

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Wednesday Word

February 28, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 103, spotted via Quote Catalog, comes right on time, as we wrap up Black History Month and get ready for Women’s History Month. W.E.B. Du Bois — an African-American sociologist, writer, activist and originator of this quote — is a real one for this. Not only was he one of the most impactful social thinkers of his generation, but he also recognized the importance of lifting up women. This quote is equally potent today as it was back then. Reading these words makes me think of the black women who rise while navigating a world that constantly quells our voices. We dare to thrive in a society that challenges our worth due to the sheer fact that we’re both rich with melanin and hold the key to life in our anatomies. I personally think of my mother, who worked tirelessly to raise us kids — six wild and crazy ones at that — while progressing in her career and serving God. I’m also thinking of my Grandma Ruth, Grandma Clara, and a gaggle of aunties who set examples for me with their selflessness, faith, grit and compassion. It’s because of their determination that I’m here today.

Who are some of the women who come to mind when you reflect on this quote? Let me know in the comments section below!

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Wednesday Word

February 21, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 102, courtesy of GREER Chicago, is for all those who refuse to let hurdles stand in the way of their progress. Shirley Chisholm, who made history as the first African-American woman elected to the US Congress and first African-American to run for President on a major party ticket, faced many challenges in her political career. But she persisted in the face of many a closed door, numerous naysayers and severely stacked odds. The famous quote stems from a word of encouragement that she gave to Democratic party activist and her longtime friend, Donna Brazile: “If you wait for a man to give you a seat, you’ll never have one! If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring in a folding chair.” Also, shout out to the women who speak life into their friends’ hopes and dreams. (As you may know, Brazile continues to make major moves in the political arena and is currently chair of the Democratic National Committee.) There’s something to be said about someone who’s so sure of herself and her mission that she chooses to see opposition as opportunity. Chisholm is a beacon of confidence, resilience and determination. She knew that there was great work to be done, and it couldn’t stop with the noes of men. Aren’t you glad that there are powerful women like Chisholm who came before us to set an example of the potential we have inside? I know I am.

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Wednesday Word

January 24, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 100, spotted on Mess in a Bottle’s Instagram, is low key my mantra during this season, as I embark on my own “Year of Yes.”

First of all, this very feature represents something that I stepped out on back in February 2015. I had long wanted to include words of wisdom and encouragement on this blog on a more regular cadence, and “Wednesday Word” was the vehicle that I created for that purpose, after months of wondering in my mind how people would receive it or if it even made sense for my brand. Well, guess what: I’m all about encouraging and bringing joy to others, so I shouldn’t have even questioned if it was a fit for Ashley Adores. Plus, I make the rules here. LOL. I didn’t need approval from anyone to begin with. And here we are, 100 Wednesday Words in!

You’d be surprised how opportunities to live out your dreams and accomplish your goals come seemingly out of nowhere when your mindset shifts from “I should do X” or “It would be cool if Y happened,” to “I’m actually going to do Z and when I do, it will feel amazing.” God is up to something, for sure. For example, one of my goals for 2018 is to get a better grasp on my finances and knock down my debt. Then lo and behold, my church announced that it is offering a financial literacy course starting next month. Boom! A chance to really cross that item off my list.

What have you prolonged? What dream have you deferred? Sometimes a shift in mindset is all you need to accomplish your goals. So, no more shoulda, woulda, coulda. We’re making moves ’round here. To remix queen of the glow-up, Cardi B: I don’t slack now; I make power moves.© Now that’s a dope T-shirt in the making … You heard it here first!

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Wednesday Word

January 8, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 99, spotted on Pinterest, is dedicated to those who want to live life without regret. It’s better to make a mistake than it is to sit idly by and wonder what could have been. With the start of a new year comes an influx of hopes and aspirations of ways to improve various areas of your life. And of course, there comes the cynicism of those who feel like the new year is simply a changing date on a calendar. But I personally am harnessing the newness as a real opportunity to start over and go after the things that I’ve pushed aside. I want to be that person who learned a bunch from their failures, instead of that person who looks back over their life in their 80s and wishes they had taken the risk or did the thing they always wanted to do. This year, I’m going to do things that scare me and push me out of my comfort zone. I’m currently listing to Shonda Rimes’ “Year of Yes” (seriously, do yourself a favor and head to Audible right now — well, after you finish reading this post — and get it!) and it’s giving me all kinds of life. And it’s giving me all kinds of ideas about what I could say “yes” to, and I’m excited about what I’ll learn about myself along the way. For starters, I’m taking a series of public speaking courses offered through my job. Like many introverts, I’m terrified of public speaking. “I’m a writer, not a talker,” I tell myself to make sense of this phobia. But who knows what this newfound courage will bring about? I can’t wait to see. I’ll fill you in!

What is it that you’re making a commitment to pursue? Let me know in the comments below.

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Wednesday Word

November 15, 2017

This Wednesday Word No. 98, courtesy of Marc Johns, has been my mantra over the past six weeks. I suddenly didn’t have much feeling or strength in my left foot. I noticed my foot was dragging one night when I was walking my dog. It wasn’t a thing that progressively got worse. It just happened all at once out of the blue. I’ve been in and out of doctors’ offices trying to diagnose my injury. Even a kind young doctor was trying to diagnose me out on the dance floor at my job’s Halloween party last month. It seems like most are perplexed by my condition. The podiatrist confirmed nothing is broken. The chiropractor conducted an awful nerve test on me (basically he stuck me with a needle at various points on my thigh, leg and foot, and zapped me to see how my nerves reacted) and I got my back X-rayed — the results for both came back normal. Most recently, the MRI revealed more about my discs. The chiropractor’s theory that I’m experiencing the numbness and lack of strength in my foot due to a slipped disc in my back, which could have happened months ago, was partially correct. It’s a lateral herniation in my L4/L5 disc. Basically, the disc is triangulated so it’s nearly pinching the nerve. The doctor prescribed me steroids, which were helpful in restoring strength and movement back to three of my toes. Now if we could get the pinky toe and the one next to it back wiggling, that would be fantastic. It’s been super frustrating not knowing what the heck’s going on. But at the same time, I’m hopeful because I know God is up to something. He’s in control. And he’s going to work it out. And though it sucks walking around in a boot, I’ve been heartened by the kindness and concern people have shown me. Everything’s gonna be super duper. I feel it in my bones. Just not all of the ones in my left foot. LOL.

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