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Wednesday Word

March 21, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 105, spotted on Pinterest, is a good reminder for today, the second day of spring. Or any day, really! LOL. Spoken by Walt Whitman — the American poet, essayist and journalist also known as the “father of free verse” — this quote, in my opinion, is all about your mindset. Spring, to many, is the start of a new beginning. New life, new blooms, new wardrobes, new possibilities and so on. Why not use the dawn of this new season as a time to recalibrate and shift gears in your thinking? Maybe the rainy, chilly weather — or if we’re being really honest, life’s little storms — has gotten you down. Maybe you’re tired of hearing that good things are on the way when your present reality shows otherwise. If so, here’s a simple remedy that may be just what the doctor ordered: Turn your gaze toward the sun. Soak in those rays, that divine Vitamin D, and see if it doesn’t shift your perspective. When we shift our gaze toward the light (read: focus on the positive), darkness has no choice but to fall behind us. On this day — this drizzly and grey day in Los Angeles — I will look for the metaphorical sunshine and know that it will put a little spring in my step. Hope you can do the same wherever you are (physically and mentally), friends!

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Wednesday Word

March 7, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 104, spotted at Hom Sweet Hom, was unapologetically spoken by Shonda Rhimes. For the uninitiated, Shonda Rhimes is the creator, head writer, executive producer and showrunner of “Grey’s Anatomy,” “Private Practice,” “Scandal” and “How to Get Away With Murder.” She basically runs Thursday nights on ABC and is a total game-changer. But that probably goes without saying. This quote taken from her book, “Year of Yes” (I listened to it as an audiobook in January, and it completely changed my perspective and led me to embark on my own “Year of Yes”), is her forever mood and is goals for me. To put it into context, Shonda writes: “I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart. I am talented. I take advantage of the opportunities that came my way and I work really, really hard. Don’t call me lucky. Call me a badass.” Remember those words when someone tries to dim your shine. We all should have the confidence to tout our greatness. Let’s call it like it is. We’ve earned everything we’ve accomplished, often working twice as hard to get half the credit of others. This Women’s History Month, I salute Shonda Rhimes for the example she has set for Black girls everywhere. Seeing her succeed lets us know that our words matter and that embracing our imaginations and creativity can lead to amazing things.

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Wednesday Word

February 28, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 103, spotted via Quote Catalog, comes right on time, as we wrap up Black History Month and get ready for Women’s History Month. W.E.B. Du Bois — an African-American sociologist, writer, activist and originator of this quote — is a real one for this. Not only was he one of the most impactful social thinkers of his generation, but he also recognized the importance of lifting up women. This quote is equally potent today as it was back then. Reading these words makes me think of the black women who rise while navigating a world that constantly quells our voices. We dare to thrive in a society that challenges our worth due to the sheer fact that we’re both rich with melanin and hold the key to life in our anatomies. I personally think of my mother, who worked tirelessly to raise us kids — six wild and crazy ones at that — while progressing in her career and serving God. I’m also thinking of my Grandma Ruth, Grandma Clara, and a gaggle of aunties who set examples for me with their selflessness, faith, grit and compassion. It’s because of their determination that I’m here today.

Who are some of the women who come to mind when you reflect on this quote? Let me know in the comments section below!

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Wednesday Word

February 21, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 102, courtesy of GREER Chicago, is for all those who refuse to let hurdles stand in the way of their progress. Shirley Chisholm, who made history as the first African-American woman elected to the US Congress and first African-American to run for President on a major party ticket, faced many challenges in her political career. But she persisted in the face of many a closed door, numerous naysayers and severely stacked odds. The famous quote stems from a word of encouragement that she gave to Democratic party activist and her longtime friend, Donna Brazile: “If you wait for a man to give you a seat, you’ll never have one! If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring in a folding chair.” Also, shout out to the women who speak life into their friends’ hopes and dreams. (As you may know, Brazile continues to make major moves in the political arena and is currently chair of the Democratic National Committee.) There’s something to be said about someone who’s so sure of herself and her mission that she chooses to see opposition as opportunity. Chisholm is a beacon of confidence, resilience and determination. She knew that there was great work to be done, and it couldn’t stop with the noes of men. Aren’t you glad that there are powerful women like Chisholm who came before us to set an example of the potential we have inside? I know I am.

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Wednesday Word

January 24, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 100, spotted on Mess in a Bottle’s Instagram, is low key my mantra during this season, as I embark on my own “Year of Yes.”

First of all, this very feature represents something that I stepped out on back in February 2015. I had long wanted to include words of wisdom and encouragement on this blog on a more regular cadence, and “Wednesday Word” was the vehicle that I created for that purpose, after months of wondering in my mind how people would receive it or if it even made sense for my brand. Well, guess what: I’m all about encouraging and bringing joy to others, so I shouldn’t have even questioned if it was a fit for Ashley Adores. Plus, I make the rules here. LOL. I didn’t need approval from anyone to begin with. And here we are, 100 Wednesday Words in!

You’d be surprised how opportunities to live out your dreams and accomplish your goals come seemingly out of nowhere when your mindset shifts from “I should do X” or “It would be cool if Y happened,” to “I’m actually going to do Z and when I do, it will feel amazing.” God is up to something, for sure. For example, one of my goals for 2018 is to get a better grasp on my finances and knock down my debt. Then lo and behold, my church announced that it is offering a financial literacy course starting next month. Boom! A chance to really cross that item off my list.

What have you prolonged? What dream have you deferred? Sometimes a shift in mindset is all you need to accomplish your goals. So, no more shoulda, woulda, coulda. We’re making moves ’round here. To remix queen of the glow-up, Cardi B: I don’t slack now; I make power moves.© Now that’s a dope T-shirt in the making … You heard it here first!

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Wednesday Word

January 8, 2018

This Wednesday Word No. 99, spotted on Pinterest, is dedicated to those who want to live life without regret. It’s better to make a mistake than it is to sit idly by and wonder what could have been. With the start of a new year comes an influx of hopes and aspirations of ways to improve various areas of your life. And of course, there comes the cynicism of those who feel like the new year is simply a changing date on a calendar. But I personally am harnessing the newness as a real opportunity to start over and go after the things that I’ve pushed aside. I want to be that person who learned a bunch from their failures, instead of that person who looks back over their life in their 80s and wishes they had taken the risk or did the thing they always wanted to do. This year, I’m going to do things that scare me and push me out of my comfort zone. I’m currently listing to Shonda Rimes’ “Year of Yes” (seriously, do yourself a favor and head to Audible right now — well, after you finish reading this post — and get it!) and it’s giving me all kinds of life. And it’s giving me all kinds of ideas about what I could say “yes” to, and I’m excited about what I’ll learn about myself along the way. For starters, I’m taking a series of public speaking courses offered through my job. Like many introverts, I’m terrified of public speaking. “I’m a writer, not a talker,” I tell myself to make sense of this phobia. But who knows what this newfound courage will bring about? I can’t wait to see. I’ll fill you in!

What is it that you’re making a commitment to pursue? Let me know in the comments below.

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Wednesday Word

November 15, 2017

This Wednesday Word No. 98, courtesy of Marc Johns, has been my mantra over the past six weeks. I suddenly didn’t have much feeling or strength in my left foot. I noticed my foot was dragging one night when I was walking my dog. It wasn’t a thing that progressively got worse. It just happened all at once out of the blue. I’ve been in and out of doctors’ offices trying to diagnose my injury. Even a kind young doctor was trying to diagnose me out on the dance floor at my job’s Halloween party last month. It seems like most are perplexed by my condition. The podiatrist confirmed nothing is broken. The chiropractor conducted an awful nerve test on me (basically he stuck me with a needle at various points on my thigh, leg and foot, and zapped me to see how my nerves reacted) and I got my back X-rayed — the results for both came back normal. Most recently, the MRI revealed more about my discs. The chiropractor’s theory that I’m experiencing the numbness and lack of strength in my foot due to a slipped disc in my back, which could have happened months ago, was partially correct. It’s a lateral herniation in my L4/L5 disc. Basically, the disc is triangulated so it’s nearly pinching the nerve. The doctor prescribed me steroids, which were helpful in restoring strength and movement back to three of my toes. Now if we could get the pinky toe and the one next to it back wiggling, that would be fantastic. It’s been super frustrating not knowing what the heck’s going on. But at the same time, I’m hopeful because I know God is up to something. He’s in control. And he’s going to work it out. And though it sucks walking around in a boot, I’ve been heartened by the kindness and concern people have shown me. Everything’s gonna be super duper. I feel it in my bones. Just not all of the ones in my left foot. LOL.

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Wednesday Word

September 20, 2017

This Wednesday Word No. 97, spotted on Pinterest, is an on-time reminder that nothing worth having comes easy. In this instance, I’m thinking about fitness, but this word can be applied to any area of your life (e.g., career, finances, relationships, faith, etc.). While my mantra “I’m into fitness … Fit’ness whole pizza in my mouth” governed my eating habits for quite some time, I need to leave my fat kid ways behind and put in work to get back on track health-wise. Operation Snatched for My Sister’s Wedding has officially commenced. Nov. 19 will be here before we know it, and my belly needs to go away so I’m comfortable and cute in my bridesmaid dress. To kick it into high gear, I’ve been taking a boxing class twice a week offered at my job’s gym (Shout out to stellar perks!), and it has not been a cakewalk. The trainer doesn’t take it easy on me and demands I give my all with every burpee, push-up, squat (don’t get me started on the rigors of the jump squat), sprint and plank. I must be a glutton for punishment because most of the time I feel like I’m on the verge of puking, to which the trainer promptly reminds me that there are trash cans strategically positioned around the gym. A.K.A., quit complaining and power through. Thankfully, I haven’t actually barfed during a session … yet. I feel myself getting stronger each week. Half the time, everything hurts — walking, laughing, stretching, taking the stairs, reaching for my purse … every little thing. And you know what? I like it. It means that I’m keeping myself responsible on my quest to better myself. Is there something that you need to focus your efforts on? Let me know in the comments below so I can encourage you on your journey, and vice versa 🙂

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Wednesday Word

June 14, 2017

This Wednesday Word No. 95, courtesy of Pinterest, is all about leveraging the power that comes from dancing like no one’s watching to your advantage. Guys, I just left an amazing dance party that started at 6:30 a.m. at Wurstküche in Venice, and I loved every minute of it. To get a taste of just how ridiculous fantastic it was, run fast and watch my Story on Snapchat (ashleyadores) before it disappears tomorrow morning. I’m talking costumes, high-energy music, eccentric dancing, hydrating beverages and all kinds of interesting characters. The best thing was that no one was concerned about looking silly or being judged. The fact that we were dressed in jungle-themed costumes in a restaurant before operating hours with strangers is silly in and of itself. Who does that? LOL. Me and at least 300 wild-and-free people in Los Angeles. There’s a certain sense of power that comes with not giving a care about what others may think of you. As fellow unabashedly silly gal Amy Poehler says, “If you can dance and be free and not be embarrassed, you can rule the world.”

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Wednesday Word

April 12, 2017

I’ve got Coachella on the brain and this Wednesday Word No. 94, spotted on Pinterest, is only helping give me fodder for my daydreams. Taken from the lyrics to “Wildflowers” by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, these words evoke a sense of whimsy and merriment. “You belong among the wildflowers/You belong somewhere you feel free.” Why, yes. Yes, I do, Tom. In just two days I’ll be with some of my favorite people, frolicking in the desert sun at Coachella. I’ve wanted to go to the three-day music festival for years, and this weekend I’ll finally get to experience it. Hot-hot-heat, unbelievable live performances, good vibes, erratic dancing, flower crowns (ours have LED lights!) and all. But even if you’re not going to Coachella, you can still get in on that feeling of exuberance. We all need a moment, a break from the norm, to re-energize us. What does that look like for you? Maybe it’s feeling the sand in between your toes or dipping them into the crisp ocean. Maybe it’s going on a hike that leaves you alone with your thoughts. Maybe it’s going for a long drive with the stereo cranked up at max volume and the wind making your hair dance to its own rhythm. Maybe it’s camping underneath the stars. Heck, maybe it’s waking up on a Saturday morning and committing to being still. Here’s to being young, wild and free, y’all!

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